I used to have several false notions about organizing my home such as the following:
Myth #1: Once the house was organized I would be happier.
Truth: Happiness is something I can experience right now! I am on a happiness journey this year and I am learning wonderful, simple truths from reading the book The How Of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want by Sonja Lyubomirsky which my medical doctor recommended.
Myth #2: Having a clean and organized house will make my family happier.
Truth: A clean and organized home is nice, but happiness is far more complex than that. My 70+ elderly friend said that her greatest regret looking back over her last 50 years was how much time and emotional energy she spent on cleaning her house. It didn’t bring her as much happiness as she put into it. She wished she would have spent more time enjoying her life and family.
Myth #3: Organizing your home is something you finish once and for all.
Truth: Research has proven that the 2 greatest challenges in organizing is being so overwhelmed that you don’t even start organizing. Or the other challenge is you start but aren’t content because it wasn’t perfect enough.
I will give you the secret.
Don’t throw it out because it’s so simple.
Here’s the secret:
Cut your organizing down into smaller chunks.
And lower your expectations!
How do I organize?
I cut the organizing down into chunks by ONLY organizing ONE ROOM A MONTH. I lower my expectations by not organizing rooms during the summer months because I get to enjoy my children being home, working in the yard and garden, going on vacations, and organizing my children’s school scrapbooks and achievements into 3-ring binders. I also lower my expectations by taking the month of December off because it is my most stressful and demanding month of the year.
I used to want my whole house organized from top to bottom every year, but why?
Who am I racing against? Does bragging that I organize my whole house every year bring me joy and happiness?
No. It doesn’t.
My goal is a happy family not a clean house.
In January I write down which room I will focus on each month. Writing which room I will focus on and posting it on the fridge is critical. I have made a decision! I will stick to it. In two years, my house will be organized and then I can start over again!